her mother died 2 weeks ago.
I told her I’m sorry but after thinking about what to say I couldn’t come with anything better than repeating sorry again. She then told me and another coworker how she died.
I want to show her that I care but I don’t want her mother’s death to become the elephant in the room each time we talk.
This is not romantic in any way.
Hmm… Tough one. I for one feel too socially incompetent to not mess this up in some way, but it’s ok for me with people who are used to it.
I’d say to try and celebrate her mother’s life by talking about things she liked. It’s supposed to be therapeutic, but some might consider it an invasion of privacy if not close enough.
Otherwise just giving them space and time to adapt ought to be appropriate.
Dunno how friendly you are or wanna be. No real answer because it depends on the person and the relationship. Some things work for some and backfire with others.