I suppose it depends on your definition of normal. But I specifically didn’t say it was normal for everyone, I said it was normal social anxiety. Which only affects around 10% of people. Still a pretty large number, that’s about the same as being left-handed. And yet you likely know more people that are left handed, because the odds of meeting someone with social anxiety are, of course, much lower even though just as many exist.
That would be “normal social anxiety symptoms” or even “normal for social anxiety” where normal applies to the symptom discussed. Here your use of normal supplements the “social anxiety” which I do understand is more prevalent than people would really acknowledge but isn’t exactly normal.
Even more so for zero contact, no coping mechanism social anxiety that has you saying rude things about others existing in shared physical space.
It is not implied. In fact I doubt most people would consider social anxiety to be even a clinical term and it is often used a catch all for minor anxiety towards social interactions that can be difficult.
Following up someone saying they hide inside when neighbors are around and that they think they are buffoons for not moving at the speed you want because of a lack of self control with “well that’s just normal social anxiety” validates and normalizes behavior that is neither valid nor productive.
My grandmother was an English teacher and she would tell you it’s not ok to leave things implicit as you leave the comprehension to the reader when that is the purpose of you as the speaker.
Or God forbid someone just disagree with the way you said something and express it without needlessly aggressively defending of it because it’s not ok apparently to adjust your point.
We need not rely on pedantry to cover why your statement was poorly received in some ways. In either casual or formal I still find your comment distasteful and I would not be alone even if you are not in support. If you think I misunderstood your point remake it for better understanding or else you insist that that was the one you wanted to make without change.
I just don’t care when people get upset when I push back against their engrained thoughts cause it truly doesn’t matter if you think of me poorly for as long as you remember my existence. My point is to be opposing you in that statement.
I’m not going to back off of it because you think mine invalid. That was likely always to be the case no matter the tone or verbage I used. This it’s not for you. It’s so the pushback exists at all. So that there isn’t a world with only your opinion and take in it.
So I put it back into the world again.
No it’s not normal to be so against your neighbors existence that you consider them buffoons for existing in a social space to the point that you simply have to wait for them to leave, and no that’s not normal of social anxiety to have no mechanism to handle that other than seething anger at others.
I think you might have taken the cartoon too seriously in the first place… it’s literally a “cartoonish exaggeration”, we don’t literally hate these people, we are fully aware they are normal and doing normal things… though from your posts, it does seem like taking things literally is possibly a common occurrence in your life. We are having fun here, or at least the rest of us are, we thought you were too.
Hmm, that certainly wasn’t my goal. It just to me seemed like an explanation for where you were at. I’m autistic, so I’m certainly familiar with taking things too literally. I spent a couple decades working on not doing so.
I suppose it depends on your definition of normal. But I specifically didn’t say it was normal for everyone, I said it was normal social anxiety. Which only affects around 10% of people. Still a pretty large number, that’s about the same as being left-handed. And yet you likely know more people that are left handed, because the odds of meeting someone with social anxiety are, of course, much lower even though just as many exist.
That would be “normal social anxiety symptoms” or even “normal for social anxiety” where normal applies to the symptom discussed. Here your use of normal supplements the “social anxiety” which I do understand is more prevalent than people would really acknowledge but isn’t exactly normal.
Even more so for zero contact, no coping mechanism social anxiety that has you saying rude things about others existing in shared physical space.
Is “normal social anxiety symptoms” really meaningfully different than "“normal social anxiety”? Isn’t that implied?
It is not implied. In fact I doubt most people would consider social anxiety to be even a clinical term and it is often used a catch all for minor anxiety towards social interactions that can be difficult.
Following up someone saying they hide inside when neighbors are around and that they think they are buffoons for not moving at the speed you want because of a lack of self control with “well that’s just normal social anxiety” validates and normalizes behavior that is neither valid nor productive.
My grandmother was an English teacher and she would tell you it’s not ok to leave things implicit as you leave the comprehension to the reader when that is the purpose of you as the speaker.
Did she happen to mention there is, in practice, a difference between casual and formal communication? And that different rules apply to each?
Or God forbid someone just disagree with the way you said something and express it without needlessly aggressively defending of it because it’s not ok apparently to adjust your point.
We need not rely on pedantry to cover why your statement was poorly received in some ways. In either casual or formal I still find your comment distasteful and I would not be alone even if you are not in support. If you think I misunderstood your point remake it for better understanding or else you insist that that was the one you wanted to make without change.
I just don’t care when people get upset when I push back against their engrained thoughts cause it truly doesn’t matter if you think of me poorly for as long as you remember my existence. My point is to be opposing you in that statement.
I’m not going to back off of it because you think mine invalid. That was likely always to be the case no matter the tone or verbage I used. This it’s not for you. It’s so the pushback exists at all. So that there isn’t a world with only your opinion and take in it.
So I put it back into the world again.
No it’s not normal to be so against your neighbors existence that you consider them buffoons for existing in a social space to the point that you simply have to wait for them to leave, and no that’s not normal of social anxiety to have no mechanism to handle that other than seething anger at others.
I think you might have taken the cartoon too seriously in the first place… it’s literally a “cartoonish exaggeration”, we don’t literally hate these people, we are fully aware they are normal and doing normal things… though from your posts, it does seem like taking things literally is possibly a common occurrence in your life. We are having fun here, or at least the rest of us are, we thought you were too.
Gross. What a demeaning response.
You know I can see you talking down to me like it’s a kindness. Just doesn’t make you seem better by default.
Hmm, that certainly wasn’t my goal. It just to me seemed like an explanation for where you were at. I’m autistic, so I’m certainly familiar with taking things too literally. I spent a couple decades working on not doing so.