I’ve always wondered this. Some people have trouble with dating because they try to go for people out of their league who don’t like them back. But society also tells us that we can’t choose who we are attracted to. Like for example, no one makes a “choice” to be gay.
So what happens when you’re only attracted to those out of their league that will never ever like them back?
Do the people with this issue still date? But when they date, they lie to their partner that they are into them? I have been on a couple of dates with someone I wasn’t into before. It make me incredibly guilty and dishonest that I did not like them back.
Curious as to the experience/thoughts of others.
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Looks can give you a boost/foot in the door but they are only part of the equation. Personality is what makes or brakes your chances and will take you further in the long run. Tons of good looking people are “willing to settle” for less attractive partners they enjoy spending time with rather than going with “someone on their level” who’s as engaging as a piece of wet cardboard.
Be someone people want to interact with and your chances to find a supermodel will increase significantly.
Also, just because you don’t think you’re 10/10 doesn’t mean others don’t find you attractive. Many decent looking people tend to underestimate their attractiveness when, with a little work (proper clothing, basic hygiene and a new haircut), they could start turning heads left and right.