I am pretty against having a kid of my own for many reasons (scared of pregnancies, scared of babies, awful genepool, etc.) but I do like kids, and am not against adopting a kid. It’s just rare to see many parents with adopted kids, so I’m always curious about the process. I’m getting a tubal in a few months, so I guess I’m just asking all my questions early lol
I’m not a parent, but my little sister was adopted. The worst experience of the whole process was losing my sister’s little brother. The boy was a foster child and my sister had just been adopted at the time and the judge presiding over the boy’s case decided he didn’t wanna go through the evidence and sent the poor kid back to his abusive bioparents. It tore my family apart to lose him and my parents divorced a year later. My sister didn’t understand why her little brother was taken away and I was crushed and haven’t fully recovered, and that was 18 years ago. I always tell people who are fostering/adopting in the US to be prepared for heartbreak because apparently this kind of thing is very common. They don’t care about keeping siblings together, and jokes of judges can damn a child to more abuse.
Goodness that’s awful. How is your sister doing after all this time?
She’s doing well. She seems to have gotten over the grief better than the rest of us. She’ll talk about her brother sometimes, but doesn’t bring him up often because she knows that the rest of us are still grieving him. He isn’t dead, but the loss feels the same