My BF Jay hardly ever responds to my texts anymore (we are long distance, sadly). He hardly ever expresses affection for me, and our relationship feels more platonic.

He has a list of people who he’s grateful for and people he appreciates, etc. I’m never on there, since he always “forgets”. I don’t want him to feel obligated to, though, so I’ve learned to ignore it.

He doesn’t mention me to anyone, though I excused it as him being private.

He speaks romantically about other girls but not me, as if I’m just his best friend. Eventually, I found on some posts and on his bio that he’s been with two girls he didn’t tell me about, while simultaneously dating me.

Now, we are in an open relationship, but the deal was we could only date if either of us knew about it. I did not. He’s apparently been with these girls for months.

He broke up with Mae, who he dated without my knowledge, then dated Sara. He talks a little about Sara to me now sometimes, but now he says Sara is just his friend.

Not only did he not tell me about either girl, but he, of course, never mentioned me to them, and proceeded to ask them out as if he was single.

IDK how to feel anymore…

Edit: We talked it out :)

  • @cowfodder
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    121 day ago

    Ethical non-monogamy only works if everyone involved has ethics. He appears not to.