• @chiliedogg
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    511 days ago

    Ace of hearts here:

    At least us ace folk can hide more easily. Nobody knows I’m ace unless I specifically tell them. I don’t hide it - it’s just not a topic that comes up. I’m just a single dude as far as most people know.

    • Resol van Lemmy
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      711 days ago

      It’s not really as easy for me because I’ve been a victim of sexual harassment quite a few times, mostly by men (I am male). Classmates keep resenting me for “not acting normal” and have accused me of misogyny and being gay. Parents called my asexuality “not normal at all”. Hell, my dad accused me of atheism simply for not wanting children. I just can’t stand being bullied by society all the time.

      • @[email protected]
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        211 days ago

        I’m also ace, but I live with an opposite sex partner, so that helps me look less queer. We’re both gender non-conforming (I’m non-binary, he’s unlabeled), but that’s something we can tone down.

        I can’t tell if you’re in high school or college. Things got easier for me when I moved away for college. I got to figure out who I was, away from my family and people that knew me as a child. I went to an engineering school and it was wonderful to have a bunch of other misfits to hang out with. Looking back, I think my new friend group was very non-neurotypical.

        Anyways, I hope you find a good, supportive friend group.

        • Resol van Lemmy
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          210 days ago

          Thank you so much.

          Btw I finished high school years ago.

      • Doug HollandOPM
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        111 days ago

        Screw ‘society’. You’re better than ‘society’.

        If you’re ever in Seattle, DM me and I’ll take you to breakfast.

        • Resol van Lemmy
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          210 days ago

          I’m still in Morocco, unfortunately. I’ve never even been to Seattle.

    • Doug HollandOPM
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      111 days ago

      Ace of hearts

      Always there’s some new insider lingo I don’t know. Sounds good, but what’s it mean?

      • @chiliedogg
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        211 days ago

        Romantic asexual. My gf and I do all the couple stuff, minus the sexuality.

          • @chiliedogg
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            11 days ago

            For most, we definitely appear to most people to be a regular heterosexual couple.

            So we really fly under the radar.