Paul Reubens, best known for playing Pee-wee Herman, came out as gay in HBO's posthumous documentary, 'Pee-wee as Himself', which debuted on Jan. 23 at the 2025 Sundance Film Festival
I understand what you say but I think you are projecting. “It was hurtful to me that they knew before I say it, hence it’s hurful for everybody in the same situation”. Intent is not in the reaction. Only the reactionee owns the positive or negative take… I don’t think op comment came across as mean or with intention to hurt. I can see how someone could TAKE it as offensive given prior experiences BUT that does not mean INTENT.
They say we have 3 identities, the one we think we are, the one others thinks we are , and finally the one we actually are… sometimes other can see what takes us a while to realize. Or they see through what we think we are cleverly hiding.
My perception: I read your reaction as more negative or at least accusatory then dialoguing, compared to the original. I appreciate you explaining but I still award point to op. I won’t deduce points to you tough.
P.s. did you turned out to be in the spectrum ?
You said "possibly"autistic.
Self-diagnosed, yeah. AuDHD. Not getting the assessment for autism (super expensive and there’s basically no benefit for doing so), but am diagnosed ADHD.
I’m more than likely projecting, but the man took this to his grave. It feels disrespectful to be so dismissive of that fact. I won’t reply to this thread anymore though, cause I’m definitely too close and not thinking straight about it.
I respect this restrain. Like you said it’s seems close to home…but I meant no trolling or disconfort. I appreciate the discussion. I’ll award you +1 point. Redeemable at life.
I understand what you say but I think you are projecting. “It was hurtful to me that they knew before I say it, hence it’s hurful for everybody in the same situation”. Intent is not in the reaction. Only the reactionee owns the positive or negative take… I don’t think op comment came across as mean or with intention to hurt. I can see how someone could TAKE it as offensive given prior experiences BUT that does not mean INTENT. They say we have 3 identities, the one we think we are, the one others thinks we are , and finally the one we actually are… sometimes other can see what takes us a while to realize. Or they see through what we think we are cleverly hiding.
My perception: I read your reaction as more negative or at least accusatory then dialoguing, compared to the original. I appreciate you explaining but I still award point to op. I won’t deduce points to you tough.
P.s. did you turned out to be in the spectrum ? You said "possibly"autistic.
Self-diagnosed, yeah. AuDHD. Not getting the assessment for autism (super expensive and there’s basically no benefit for doing so), but am diagnosed ADHD.
I’m more than likely projecting, but the man took this to his grave. It feels disrespectful to be so dismissive of that fact. I won’t reply to this thread anymore though, cause I’m definitely too close and not thinking straight about it.
I respect this restrain. Like you said it’s seems close to home…but I meant no trolling or disconfort. I appreciate the discussion. I’ll award you +1 point. Redeemable at life.