I am often in workwear (big canvas jackets, steal toed boots, ill-fitting pants) in public bathrooms because of my job. I’m also a retired athlete who is built a little bigger than the average woman. I have been screamed at by a woman in home depot saying, “You’re not supposed to be in here. This is the ladies.” There have been a few other times I have gotten glares and suspicious looks trying to figure out what I have going on under my large clothes.
I have a theory that most of this trans bathroom fear has resulted in negativity towards other women. Butch women exist.
What’s crazy is that while I’m somewhat butch my face is still very feminine and I’m on the small side (well, bigger than I look, but smaller than the average American) - I’m like 5’4, 135lbs and fit and I wear masc clothes. But my face should give it away… and yet it doesn’t.
I think I might want to take up some self defense classes for when running isn’t an option. If I’m backed up into a corner in a bathroom I’ll fight for sure.
I am often in workwear (big canvas jackets, steal toed boots, ill-fitting pants) in public bathrooms because of my job. I’m also a retired athlete who is built a little bigger than the average woman. I have been screamed at by a woman in home depot saying, “You’re not supposed to be in here. This is the ladies.” There have been a few other times I have gotten glares and suspicious looks trying to figure out what I have going on under my large clothes.
I have a theory that most of this trans bathroom fear has resulted in negativity towards other women. Butch women exist.
Exactly!
What’s crazy is that while I’m somewhat butch my face is still very feminine and I’m on the small side (well, bigger than I look, but smaller than the average American) - I’m like 5’4, 135lbs and fit and I wear masc clothes. But my face should give it away… and yet it doesn’t.
I think I might want to take up some self defense classes for when running isn’t an option. If I’m backed up into a corner in a bathroom I’ll fight for sure.