As far as I’m concerned, no sex in an altered state of consciousness.
I admit, it’s not a very cool point of view and I’m sure that 99% of the time, there’s no problem and it must be fun.
But I don’t want to miss the 1% where my partner isn’t in a state to consent and I’m not in a state to understand it
Yeah, this is really important. It’s less of a consideration with a partner and you’re comfortable with each other, and your partner instigates things, but with someone you’ve just met you want to feel entirely sure they’re into it. I’ve never really been into casual sex so it’s not been a big issue for me. There have been a couple of occasions where I’ve had to say no because I’ve felt that the other person was too hammered to really consent, even though they were keen. Besides, who wants to get with someone who wouldn’t be into it if they weren’t drunk? Only a rapist.
As far as I’m concerned, no sex in an altered state of consciousness.
I admit, it’s not a very cool point of view and I’m sure that 99% of the time, there’s no problem and it must be fun. But I don’t want to miss the 1% where my partner isn’t in a state to consent and I’m not in a state to understand it
Yeah, this is really important. It’s less of a consideration with a partner and you’re comfortable with each other, and your partner instigates things, but with someone you’ve just met you want to feel entirely sure they’re into it. I’ve never really been into casual sex so it’s not been a big issue for me. There have been a couple of occasions where I’ve had to say no because I’ve felt that the other person was too hammered to really consent, even though they were keen. Besides, who wants to get with someone who wouldn’t be into it if they weren’t drunk? Only a rapist.