I’ve found a lot of success in working through things logically when the painful memories return.

What does this memory teach me?

Have I learned all I can from this memory?

If it has taught me everything it can, I can set this memory aside, as there is no purpose in dwelling on it.

I am a better person because of the lessons learned, thank you memory, you have served me well. You may rest

This puts me in a position of acknowledging my imperfections without suffering long term regret. I can’t change the past, and if I’ve learned from it, then I need to live in the Now, not the Then