I affirm trans people’s existence. As someone who lacks empathy, I honestly don’t care about trans rights, nor the suffering they faced, but I know it’s bad and that they’re people too. I don’t see a reason to discriminate, so I don’t.
I don’t deadname. I use the correct pronouns. I’m just only romantically, sexually attracted to, and would only go out with cis men.
I wouldn’t date a trans man with lady parts because of his lady parts. I like man parts. I wouldn’t date a trans man with surgery because he’s female-bodied (I’m simply not attracted to trans men).
I wouldn’t date a trans woman because she’s a woman, though I might like her man parts if she still has them.
I wouldn’t date a cis woman because I’m not attracted to cis women, nor would I have sex or date either of the identified people.
I like masculine parts with a male body. If I meet the right one, I may be bicurious and date women (cis). I like the attention, compliments, and closeness of a woman, so I say I’m bi, but I only really see men as dating material.
When people would ask does X mean they are homophobic I’d say there’s a big difference between people who feel sick seeing same-sex couples kiss and those who say they want homosexuals killed. I’d call the very bad behavior “homophobia” and the minor ones “an aversion to homosexuality”. Does describing your (current) inability to date a trans woman as an “aversion” sound better to you?