• @surph_ninja
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    119 hours ago

    I’m convinced most of the accounts accusing people of being “doomers” are astroturfers trying to gaslight people into complacency.

    • @[email protected]
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      37 hours ago

      Being a doomer makes you complacent though?

      If you think we’re doomed, (like I kind of do) you lose motivation to do anything.

      I don’t want to be a fucking doomer I want people to convince me to stop being one and no one seems able.

      • @surph_ninja
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        26 hours ago

        You have to use the doom & gloom to motivate you into action. It’s a useful piece to differentiate between performative and productive actions.

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      9 hours ago

      No it just doesn’t get you anywhere being a doomer. I grew out of it

      We’re all living and we all know things are fucked. Just some people are better at dealing with it than others. Doomers can’t deal with it

      Recommended movie viewing: Everything Everywhere All At Once. Might snap you out of it if you go in with the right mind set.

      • @[email protected]
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        47 hours ago

        Everything Everywhere All At Once was about appreciating what you have in life and the people around you and not giving into hopelessness because you can’t attain some romanticized perfect life. It’s not about ignoring the horrible things going on in the world for the sake of your own peace of mind.

        • @[email protected]
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          27 hours ago

          My take from it is that any life can be enjoyable. Joyce was the doomer who just brought everyone down around her.

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            27 hours ago

            She was obsessed with trying to pursue all these different skills and obsessed over all of the opportunities she made throughout her life and what she lost by not making certain choices. She overloads her daughter by trying to make her “everything” which drives her into a pit of nihilism and drives them apart. She only saves the day by realizing that she would have missed out on just as much that is good in her life by making other choices and by giving up trying to be “everything” to just love and accept her daughter–and by extension her life.

            The message was essentially to appreciate the choices you’ve made and how they shaped the life you live, to appreciate the people around you, and to not obsess over missed opportunities and the pursuit of an impossible “perfect.”

      • @surph_ninja
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        28 hours ago

        Simply being a doomer doesn’t accomplish anything on its own. You have to translate it into meaningful action.

        You don’t “grow out of it.” You just decided to put your head back in the sand.

        • @[email protected]
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          17 hours ago

          Well I stopped acting like the person in the comic more like. I still pay attention to what’s going on. I just don’t bring up those topics at the lunch table at work for example, you know?

          • @surph_ninja
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            27 hours ago

            I think it’s ok to bring it up as a call to action, so long as you’re not just wallowing in the despair.

            • @[email protected]
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              17 hours ago

              Yup. But you have to be careful with when you do it. I lost quite a bit of friends in my doomer phase because they just couldn’t handle talking to me