Relationship AdviceEnglish • 12 hours ago

What exactly am I supposed to offer in a relationship

Relationship AdviceEnglish • 12 hours ago

Honestly I’m starting to feel like I have nothing to offer. Everyone always asks what I bring to the table. When both people are working what exactly do you want me to bring to the table?

You either find something you like in me (like my mentality, personality, appearance) or you don’t, I don’t get it.

Do you want me to slave away for you or something? Also I’m pretty introverted so I cant offer you social ties or community for the most part. Guess I’m useless.

I genuinely don’t feel like most people are THAT special. Like most people aren’t rocket scientists who also have 59 obscure hobbies and write dissertations in their spare time. Wtf do people want? A positive outlook?

Ok I have a positive outlook to offer you. They’re gonna laugh in my face when I say that. Oh I’m also quirky by the way. Not like the other girls. Teehee.

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@Octrom
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6•9 hours ago
…. You okay bro? No one is asking “what do you being to the table.”

Yes, there are basic qualifications people are looking for: hygiene, dependability, a job, minimal debt, personality, just be a good person.

These should come standard.
- @Djfok43OP
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  1•2 hours ago
  Um actually they are bro, are you okay?

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