cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/1227654
That is, do you feel like your worth as a man is related to your practical utility?
cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/1227654
That is, do you feel like your worth as a man is related to your practical utility?
I feel like I’ve been falling into that stereotype for a while, but it’s purely because I DON’T want to be that, ironically. As a bilingual software dev in a third world country, being able to get jobs with US-level salaries means I earn more than pretty much every salaried worker in my country, and probably still earn more than most business owners as well. I have the kind of salaries that congresspeople of my country earn. I can easily 2x my salary as well, if I sacrifice mental health. This means I’m the provider by default. Thus, I feel the pressure of having to be the provider, not because of gender roles, but because having such ease of access to high salaries puts me there. The goal, as it should be for everyone, is to save up and retire young, to not work ever again. I don’t care what my role is as long as I get me and my family there, but I do indeed feel that pressure to provide.
Why should the goal for everyone be to retire young? There are plenty of people who enjoy their job.
8 whole months late, but if you’re working at an old age, it should be because you want to, not because you have to. I don’t want to have to work after certain age, I want to feel assured that I can stop at any point in time and it won’t jeopardize my entire life. Doesn’t necessarily mean I’ll stop working when I meet that goal, but I do want the option, I want to not feel forced to do it. I want that for my family as well, I don’t want my mom to still be having to worry about bills, I want her to keep busy doing stuff because she likes it, not because she needs to.