For first timers use ME3 Mod Manager. All mods are from Nexus. When modding you need to install the Community Patches for each game _before _any other mods, and install the ALOT texture mod last for each game.
Launcher:
Unofficial LE2 Patch Launcher Video Fix.
Also used a patch to skip online authentication. Found by using a search engine, look in forum posts for the link.
ME1:
LE1 Community Patch.
Black Market License.
Charted Worlds.
Elements of Comparative Weaponry.
Galaxy Map Trackers.
LE1 Streamlined Weapon Loadouts.
Mission Timings.
Pinnacle Station DLC.
ALOT LE1.
ME2:
Unofficial LE2 Patch.
DLC Timings.
EGM Armors for LE2.
Expanded Shepard Armory (ESA) LE2.
Miranda Butt Shot Restoration LE2.
Overlord Morality Fix.
Reaper Husks Consistency.
ALOT Update LE2.
ME3:
Community Framework 1.6.9.
Community Patch.
Choose Your Outfit.
Collectors Cabin.
Expanded Universe Mod.
-EGM Armors.
-EGM Extras.
-EGM Squad.
-EGM Mod Menu.
Miranda Butt Shot Restoration LE3.
Miranda Mod LE3.
Persistent Settings.
Spectre Expansion Mod.
Take Earth Back.
I may be one of the only people who played MEHEM and actually found it underwhelming. It takes even more of the stakes out of your choice, and then wraps up with a happy party. As much as I hate to say it, removing the agonizing choice of saving Edi + the geth vs. potentially living through the blast makes the ending ring…hollow? Though it seems that by all indications, it won’t matter in ME5, since we know the geth are back.
You’re entitled to your opinion of course, but that said. I disagree, I feel like MEHEM made the best of a bad situation, and to me it acts as a nice way to end the trilogy. With MEHEM, if ME5 turns out bad, I’ll at least have a great story in the trilogy top to bottom. If anything, it’s always good to have options, I can’t imagine the kind of work it took to make a mod like that in the first place, so I’m grateful.
Plus, I like happy endings sooo, yeah.
Oh I’m quite aware my opinion is the unpopular one by a landslide! I totally respect why it’s such an important mod, and I’m glad it exists.