• PenguinJuice
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    -271 year ago

    Yeah because if they are being abused, especially with children present. It’s easy to prove.

    • @[email protected]
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      111 year ago

      No it’s not. There are different kinds of abuse that aren’t physical. Besides, you shouldn’t be limited to leaving a situation you hate by having to prove violence. It’s gross to advocate for something like that.

        • jadero
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          71 year ago

          My wife and I married at age 20. We’re now 66 and still going strong. I still don’t understand how or why anyone could be expected to reliably predict the future.

          The one thing I can say that we’ve never done is to successfully predict how we would evolve as individuals over time and how that would affect our relationship. We’re not still together because of some decision made over 45 years ago, but because of decisions we’ve made, if not every day, then at least every year.

          Of all the flaws in any ideology or even individual belief system, the biggest by far is the idea that a position must be held at all costs or a decision be written in stone for all time.

          • PenguinJuice
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            -61 year ago

            If you can’t be sure, one should not marry.

            It’s for better or worse, for sick or for poor.

            Or do we just lie when we take vows these days?

            • jadero
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              11 year ago

              With that kind of thinking, no honest person would marry while still of an age where having children makes sense. There are no guarantees in life and only a fool thinks there is.

              My personal opinion used to be that some people don’t put the effort in to get through a rough patch. I’ve since realized that one person’s rough patch is another’s deal breaker. We’re not all the same, and that includes responses to disaster and resilience in the face of adversity.

              Just because it’s not working now and there is no evidence that it can be made to work doesn’t mean anyone entered into it in bad faith. That vow you reference might fit with certain ideologies, but it’s as fragile in the face of reality as most ideologies.

        • @VivaceMoss
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          71 year ago

          Then why even have marriage? What a stupid concept.

          People change, people hide shit. The person you know the absolute best is someone that you don’t know everything about. If someone puts on airs until the wedding and then reveals themselves to be a piece of shit, you should just be stuck with them for life because you signed some stupid paper?

          I’d rather abolish the concept of marriage entirely than have to live in some stupid hellhole that follows the rules you think should apply to marriage.

          • @Huxleywaswrite
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            21 year ago

            Oh, he’s a troll. He’s probably made a while life of pretending to be this stupid everytime someone expects something reasonable from him.

          • PenguinJuice
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            -31 year ago

            Please explain why someone should marry someone they do not 100% know?

    • AnonTwo
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      11 year ago

      You didn’t say anything that would make it easy to prove. Just more people threatened if caught trying to prove it.

      Did you not learn what the word ‘abuse’ means in school?