My takeaway from witnessing a friends journey between imcompetent doctors, side effect heavy antidepressants and increasingly whacky other depression treatment methods:
When ADHD is the actual root cause, leaving it unacknowledged (and untreated) will achieve nothing and cause unnecessary harm.
Seriously, not being able to recall the knowledge you know you have if the most frustrating part of this. It makes me so mad that I feel like I should know this but I just don’t. So I’m always asking for help, and the minute someone else says “oh check this part” or " you just have to do this" that’s when all the info comes back.
Everyone at my job thinks I’ve got junior level skills, but I’ve been doing it for 11 years and actually know a lot. But I can never prove it.
At this point I’ve all but given up on learning and trying new things, because it feels like it’s pointless. I don’t get excited about anything anymore, it sucks.
Yeah, I am unable to recall nodes, I need edges, but when I find that edge, I have no problems having all the connections inside my head.
If I were in that situation for so many years, I’d seek some kind of resolution. Either by coming out as Autistic and ADHD to management or - if that was already common knowledge - switching roles, jobs or even profession. Anything to get away from a place that has toxicity already settled in for so long.
I know… it sounds easy in writing. I don’t know enough about the exact situation. But if you needed a justification to overcome autistic inertia and make a push for improvement: Maybe this works as one.
Ah yeah I see where you’re coming from, but as you guessed it’s a little more complicated than that. The environment is not toxic (from my immediate co-workers at least, some higher ups are questionable) everyone treats me well and with respect, it’s just they constantly underestimate what I can do, and tend to overload my coworkers with tickets I could do. But this is not a single business issue, this has happened to me at every job I’ve been at, and it comes from never being able to remember how to do things off the top of my head, I constantly have to looks things up and ask questions for things I’ve done a million times, and it makes it seem to other people like I’ve never done anything, so I’m constantly treated like a newbie. That’s the frustrating part.
I hope this is ok to ask, just stumbled on this thread. Is there anything someone that you’d ask for help for could do or not do to improve how you’d feel about such a situation?