I’m mentioning money because I have a job that requires me to work every weekend. I earn average $600 every weekend. If he interferes with my job that weekend then he is inconveniencing me for his own orgasm. He gets an orgasm and I lose $600. Do you see the disparity there? To solve the disparity he should pay me $600 for his orgasm, so he gets what he wants without me having to sacrifice a whole weekend of income for him.
He offered for you to sleep over. You accepted. Nobody is forcing you to do anything, I don’t know why you feel like you’re a victim in this scenario. Just stop being hit and cold and pick a fuckin’ lane.
solve the disparity he should pay me $600 for his orgasm
I am not a whore. I’m a disabled veteran but still have to go to work to survive. That’s torture in itself. Work very hard for very little pay because apparently that’s how little the world values massage therapists.
Getting to the point I’m sick of people taking and giving nothing in return. I make daily agonizing nutritional sacrifices to maintain my health which results in being cute & sexy & and healthy as fuck but also a shy passive personality so people take advantage of me and they come out winning and I come out losing. Everyone wants a piece of me but they give nothing in return.
Update: he visited me today and he got his orgasm and he ate $10 worth of my food. I can barely afford to feed my own self. Do you think he owes me $10 for my food he ate? He gave me nothing in return but his smokin’ hot company for an hour and a powerful painful UNPLEASURABLE-FOR-ME pounding.
This is the second time he’s come by and eaten my food. If he does it again I will be assertive and tell him that food has monetary value and give him my venmo.
Then stop demanding money for sex. That’s it. That’s the whole job, the only requirement.
Getting to the point I’m sick of people taking and giving nothing in return.
Then stop agreeing to it. You very literally say yes to staying the night in this text exchange, and then get passed passed he would ever suggest it.
Update: he visited me today and he got his orgasm and he ate $10 worth of my food. I can barely afford to feed my own self. Do you think he owes me $10 for my food he ate? He gave me nothing in return but his smokin’ hot company for an hour and a powerful painful UNPLEASURABLE-FOR-ME pounding.
This entire conversation is simply “why do people who I agree to have sex with want to have sex with me?” Your entire mindset is infuriating because it’s childish af. You are in charge of your own decisions. If you don’t like the sex, then why do you keep having it?!?! If you don’t like your decisions, stop making them and stop blaming other people.
You expect me to stop agreeing to people wanting to spend time with me and have sex with me? Isn’t that the pinnacle of the human experience to want to love & be loved? But then they end up treating me like free disposable trash and he eats my food that I paid for, and that’s how everyone is today, and that is what I’m complaining about. Love & sex shouldn’t be booty calls & using each other, it should be love. But all anyone ever does is use me, I’m 50 years old now and I’m sick of this shit. I want love. I don’t want to be alone.
You expect me to stop agreeing to people wanting to spend time with me and have sex with me? […] and that’s how everyone is today
It really isn’t how everyone is, but it certainly sounds like all this guy is. Ditch the loser and find someone better. I hate to seem age-ist here, but you’re dating much younger and of course you’re getting immaturity in return.
Love & sex shouldn’t be booty calls & using each other, it should be love.
Love isn’t just about sex, but it is obviously a part of it. If all you’re getting is (what you describe as) bad sex that doesn’t even do anything for you, why are you still there? In your own words, this person isn’t meeting any of your needs… it’s clearly not what you’re after, but you seem to keep seeking and accepting it anyway. Why haven’t you moved on?
I’m mentioning money because I have a job that requires me to work every weekend. I earn average $600 every weekend. If he interferes with my job that weekend then he is inconveniencing me for his own orgasm. He gets an orgasm and I lose $600. Do you see the disparity there? To solve the disparity he should pay me $600 for his orgasm, so he gets what he wants without me having to sacrifice a whole weekend of income for him.
He offered for you to sleep over. You accepted. Nobody is forcing you to do anything, I don’t know why you feel like you’re a victim in this scenario. Just stop being hit and cold and pick a fuckin’ lane.
Yes, that very literally makes you a whore.
I am not a whore. I’m a disabled veteran but still have to go to work to survive. That’s torture in itself. Work very hard for very little pay because apparently that’s how little the world values massage therapists.
Getting to the point I’m sick of people taking and giving nothing in return. I make daily agonizing nutritional sacrifices to maintain my health which results in being cute & sexy & and healthy as fuck but also a shy passive personality so people take advantage of me and they come out winning and I come out losing. Everyone wants a piece of me but they give nothing in return.
Update: he visited me today and he got his orgasm and he ate $10 worth of my food. I can barely afford to feed my own self. Do you think he owes me $10 for my food he ate? He gave me nothing in return but his smokin’ hot company for an hour and a powerful painful UNPLEASURABLE-FOR-ME pounding.
This is the second time he’s come by and eaten my food. If he does it again I will be assertive and tell him that food has monetary value and give him my venmo.
Then stop demanding money for sex. That’s it. That’s the whole job, the only requirement.
Then stop agreeing to it. You very literally say yes to staying the night in this text exchange, and then get passed passed he would ever suggest it.
This entire conversation is simply “why do people who I agree to have sex with want to have sex with me?” Your entire mindset is infuriating because it’s childish af. You are in charge of your own decisions. If you don’t like the sex, then why do you keep having it?!?! If you don’t like your decisions, stop making them and stop blaming other people.
You expect me to stop agreeing to people wanting to spend time with me and have sex with me? Isn’t that the pinnacle of the human experience to want to love & be loved? But then they end up treating me like free disposable trash and he eats my food that I paid for, and that’s how everyone is today, and that is what I’m complaining about. Love & sex shouldn’t be booty calls & using each other, it should be love. But all anyone ever does is use me, I’m 50 years old now and I’m sick of this shit. I want love. I don’t want to be alone.
It really isn’t how everyone is, but it certainly sounds like all this guy is. Ditch the loser and find someone better. I hate to seem age-ist here, but you’re dating much younger and of course you’re getting immaturity in return.
Love isn’t just about sex, but it is obviously a part of it. If all you’re getting is (what you describe as) bad sex that doesn’t even do anything for you, why are you still there? In your own words, this person isn’t meeting any of your needs… it’s clearly not what you’re after, but you seem to keep seeking and accepting it anyway. Why haven’t you moved on?