I mean, we can imagine a counterfactual where the girl was even more insistant.
“No, anon, you’re taking me on a date! I won’t take no for an answer”
And then they go on a date. Anon is very awkward and has no idea what to do. But at the end of the date, she gives him a bj. Now what?
Well from her perspective, maybe, she did a good deed. She gave him some experience and confidence and set him on his way - hooray!
But from anon’s perspective - being anon - he is in the same position, only worse. After all, for some reason he can’t possibly understand, a girl went on a date with him and blew him, practically handed herself to him on a silver platter, and yet he still managed to fuck it up and didn’t lose his virginity. What a hopeless loser he is (he thinks to himself) - even if he is just given the perfect chance, he must be so repulsive and terrible at sex that no woman will want to touch him once they get close enough.
The world puts an unbelievable amount of emphasis on having sex as a mandatory aspiration. Most advertising is coded for either sex or hunger or fear. Most people are sexual people who frame things sexually, even subtly. Douglas Adams even once wrote that the basis of literally every construction and technology and artistic work on the planet was to impress someone of the opposite sex.
Needless to say, it’s hard to keep from internalizing some of this in some way. If you’d look at r/asexuality and the Lemmy asexual communities, you’d see a lot of people realizing “oh shit, I’m not broken!” after spending whole-ass years thinking they were.
There is still a small voice inside me that says I’m an idiot for not chasing sex. I can’t help it. Society is pervasive.
A lot of girls won’t fuck me because I don’t drive a 7 row luxury SUV and ask me if I’m homosexual or mentally ill for not doing so.
I mostly laugh at them. Are they ‘society’ or just stupid twats projecting their insecurity about vehicle size onto others?
That Douglas Adams fellow was a right twat. Just because he wants to fuck buildings doesn’t mean the rest of us do. I’m content fucking my 10 year old hatchback. It has a dual exhaust… and it never once impressed a lady. It mostly impresses Suburu drivers who are all lesbians or aspiring lesbians.
Chasing sex can be fun. For a lot of dummies the chase is the point and the sex is the annoying dumb part.
Nerds ignoring confidence.
In my experience, 25 year old virgin usually means they’ll typically start to embrace that desperate/needy persona.
Events can turn that shit around.
I mean, we can imagine a counterfactual where the girl was even more insistant.
“No, anon, you’re taking me on a date! I won’t take no for an answer”
And then they go on a date. Anon is very awkward and has no idea what to do. But at the end of the date, she gives him a bj. Now what?
Well from her perspective, maybe, she did a good deed. She gave him some experience and confidence and set him on his way - hooray!
But from anon’s perspective - being anon - he is in the same position, only worse. After all, for some reason he can’t possibly understand, a girl went on a date with him and blew him, practically handed herself to him on a silver platter, and yet he still managed to fuck it up and didn’t lose his virginity. What a hopeless loser he is (he thinks to himself) - even if he is just given the perfect chance, he must be so repulsive and terrible at sex that no woman will want to touch him once they get close enough.
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I mean, I’m a 40-year-old virgin, but being asexual and sex-repulsed means I’m not desperate and needy.
However, the asexuality sadly disqualifies me for the wizard powers.
Sure, I’m dragging a wide net.
how can you feel bad about not having sex if you don’t want to have sex?
The world puts an unbelievable amount of emphasis on having sex as a mandatory aspiration. Most advertising is coded for either sex or hunger or fear. Most people are sexual people who frame things sexually, even subtly. Douglas Adams even once wrote that the basis of literally every construction and technology and artistic work on the planet was to impress someone of the opposite sex.
Needless to say, it’s hard to keep from internalizing some of this in some way. If you’d look at r/asexuality and the Lemmy asexual communities, you’d see a lot of people realizing “oh shit, I’m not broken!” after spending whole-ass years thinking they were.
There is still a small voice inside me that says I’m an idiot for not chasing sex. I can’t help it. Society is pervasive.
A lot of girls won’t fuck me because I don’t drive a 7 row luxury SUV and ask me if I’m homosexual or mentally ill for not doing so.
I mostly laugh at them. Are they ‘society’ or just stupid twats projecting their insecurity about vehicle size onto others?
That Douglas Adams fellow was a right twat. Just because he wants to fuck buildings doesn’t mean the rest of us do. I’m content fucking my 10 year old hatchback. It has a dual exhaust… and it never once impressed a lady. It mostly impresses Suburu drivers who are all lesbians or aspiring lesbians.
Chasing sex can be fun. For a lot of dummies the chase is the point and the sex is the annoying dumb part.