Me: Sorry, I already mentally planned this to be a “me day.” I haven’t got the energy to do much, so I’m not going anywhere or doing anything.
She understands, we’re both on the spectrum. I like to plan ahead for things, so spur-of-the-moment socialization, even for people I like, is hard to do. I naturally want to apologize and sometimes feel guilty for rejecting invites, but she reminds me that there’s nothing wrong with planning or having “me time.” We usually make plans for the following day when this happens, as when I wake up with a plan already in place, it becomes so much easier to follow through. It’s the spontaneity that’s the most difficult thing.
My girlfriend: Want to come over today?
Me: Sorry, I already mentally planned this to be a “me day.” I haven’t got the energy to do much, so I’m not going anywhere or doing anything.
She understands, we’re both on the spectrum. I like to plan ahead for things, so spur-of-the-moment socialization, even for people I like, is hard to do. I naturally want to apologize and sometimes feel guilty for rejecting invites, but she reminds me that there’s nothing wrong with planning or having “me time.” We usually make plans for the following day when this happens, as when I wake up with a plan already in place, it becomes so much easier to follow through. It’s the spontaneity that’s the most difficult thing.
Sounds like a keeper