I am a white heterosexual cisman and I am constantly haunted by intrusive thoughts related to how I will perform or be perceived in bed.
Whenever I see depictions of gay - especially lesbian - relationships, I imagine the relationship being a lot less toxic, less detrimental to each other’s mental health and - most of all - less prone to performance related anxiety.[1]
Is this just prejudice[2] or is there some truth to it?


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People really don’t appreciate how many biological processes need to work correctly to even achieve an erection. Even just one being off can make it not happen.
Shit, even using your leg muscles too much can cause you to lose it.
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Exactly. I’m on antidepressants, plus my testicles don’t work so getting an erection can be a struggle.
But I sure do love getting the opportunity to use my tongue to get my wife there.
Thank you for sharing! Very valuable perspective!