So, me, (22F), my fiancée Aiko (monogamous but supports me, 23F) and my boyfriend Will (23NB but he/they pronouns) are all in an open relationship. Will is also dating this guy Dave (26M) for 2 months, while we have been dating for like 4 months. We are seeing how it goes, but I have one problem.
While I get that Dave is new to him and all that, they always sleep over, play video games, etc. and Will never invites me to do that stuff with him, only Dave and Will invite each other. It’s a good thing I have Aiko to do that stuff with, but I mean, come on. I wanna spend time with Will too.
And I’ve even told him that and how I don’t like how he leaves me on “delivered” or “seen” for hours, and he just says “Oh, sorry!” or “I’m just busy” or “I’m just depressed”, so then I don’t bring it up again because he has a reason to do so and I feel petty.
Here’s the thing: He’s usually doing this, and he doesn’t do this often to Dave, just me. He always spams Dave and freaks out when he doesn’t respond, and while Will likes me, he couldn’t care less if I responded to him or not.
He says because Dave has been treating him badly, that he’s done with men, but he clearly likes men more or at least Dave more than me.
Sounds like Will is either waiting for you to “take the hint” and move on so he doesn’t have to be the one to end it or wants to keep you around as a backup in case things don’t work out with Dave. Whatever his intentions, he is clearly not prioritizing your relationship, which begs the question do you really want to be with someone who doesn’t consider you to be a priority in his life?
You’re right. He always says I help him though and that I’m a good girlfriend, so IDK. Maybe I am just a backup to him. I’m very afraid of making him sadder/angry though, I wish I wasn’t.