I knew a woman that would declare, early on in a relationship, that she didn’t want any funny business ever but would very much want funny business a month later. I always assumed it was to filter out people that were only after funny business, or to gauge how their partner respects consent. Granted its not the same dynamic as in the OOP.
Agreed. As an equally confused human as this OP, I think it’s about choice, luck, trust and possibly solar flares.
I too blunder through this world pretending I have an understanding of my wife of 20+ years and just opt to get excited when the light turns green.
I knew a woman that would declare, early on in a relationship, that she didn’t want any funny business ever but would very much want funny business a month later. I always assumed it was to filter out people that were only after funny business, or to gauge how their partner respects consent. Granted its not the same dynamic as in the OOP.