I don’t personally want to live with my parents, but I’ve spent the majority of my life living with flatmates or similar situations, by choice. I’ve always preferred it over having a place entirely to myself, makes coming home feel more like visiting friends than just returning to silence. Requires people you get along well with though…
flatmates might be different from family. because wont hear them constantly nagging you on your career choices, or why you havnt found a job 24/7. assuming your roomates are in good terms they wont be annoying. they do care if any of the flatmates flake on the rent though. i heard alot of stories where drama happens because one of them refuses to pay rent.
My partner and myself share a house with another couple and it’s a great arrangement for us. We’re close friends, we all give each other plenty of space, and it’s nice to have our chosen family involved in our day to day lives.
I think the most important aspect is making sure everyone has their own space they can go to get away from others. We all need our alone time!
Yeah, exactly. If I could end up in a situation like this longterm, I’d be happy.
For a while in my early 20s, I was staying with a friend of my parents because I just moved to a new city and she offered. She has a small house, as part of an enclave of about 20 houses built around a big common area, including workspaces, a massive kitchen and other amenities. They had a cooking schedule, so everyone in the 20 houses cooks at some point for the entire little community, and you just show up at dinner time for a meal if you’re not cooking that day. It’s super well organized and everyone seemed pretty happy with the setup.
I LOVED it. If I could achieve or find that one day I’d never leave…
I’m an introvert, I LOVE that I come home and I either have the place to myself or my fiance is the only person that could be home. Even then, sometimes I go fuck off in the garage after working in a garage all day just to have a bit to unwind. Dealing with people at work all day is so draining I couldn’t imagine having to deal with more people when I get home, but introverts drain around people and extroverts charge or whatever so to each their own!
Oh, I’m an introvert too, but I also suck at being the one to ask friends to do things or go places, so its easier to just have them hanging around at home essentially. But I also have plenty of options for getting away from home, so I don’t feel trapped that way
I miss living in a punk house with five other bastards. There was always something going on and when I was done being social I could just hole up in my room.
Finally have my own place after sharing various living situations for 20 years and it’s glorious to come home to my tiny apartment and only have to deal with my cat.
Downside is, I no longer have friends or go out. My roommates/SOs always made friends and plans for me, so I never really developed those skills, and now I’m too old to crash DIY venues and not be That Weird Old Guy that comes to all of the shows.
I empathise and understand! I’m pretty awkward with people I don’t know, so meeting new ones is a challenge to be honest.
I spent a year and a half living with my closest buddy in an amazing apartment, and it was quite honestly spectacular. Will be moving cities again after summer, and will put in effort to get a good flatmate situation going.
I don’t personally want to live with my parents, but I’ve spent the majority of my life living with flatmates or similar situations, by choice. I’ve always preferred it over having a place entirely to myself, makes coming home feel more like visiting friends than just returning to silence. Requires people you get along well with though…
flatmates might be different from family. because wont hear them constantly nagging you on your career choices, or why you havnt found a job 24/7. assuming your roomates are in good terms they wont be annoying. they do care if any of the flatmates flake on the rent though. i heard alot of stories where drama happens because one of them refuses to pay rent.
Well, yeah. As with all other people interactions, if the people you interact with suck it’s going to have a negative impact 😅
But in a decade and a half of living with other people like this, not once has rent been an issue.
My partner and myself share a house with another couple and it’s a great arrangement for us. We’re close friends, we all give each other plenty of space, and it’s nice to have our chosen family involved in our day to day lives.
I think the most important aspect is making sure everyone has their own space they can go to get away from others. We all need our alone time!
Yeah, exactly. If I could end up in a situation like this longterm, I’d be happy.
For a while in my early 20s, I was staying with a friend of my parents because I just moved to a new city and she offered. She has a small house, as part of an enclave of about 20 houses built around a big common area, including workspaces, a massive kitchen and other amenities. They had a cooking schedule, so everyone in the 20 houses cooks at some point for the entire little community, and you just show up at dinner time for a meal if you’re not cooking that day. It’s super well organized and everyone seemed pretty happy with the setup.
I LOVED it. If I could achieve or find that one day I’d never leave…
I’m an introvert, I LOVE that I come home and I either have the place to myself or my fiance is the only person that could be home. Even then, sometimes I go fuck off in the garage after working in a garage all day just to have a bit to unwind. Dealing with people at work all day is so draining I couldn’t imagine having to deal with more people when I get home, but introverts drain around people and extroverts charge or whatever so to each their own!
Oh, I’m an introvert too, but I also suck at being the one to ask friends to do things or go places, so its easier to just have them hanging around at home essentially. But I also have plenty of options for getting away from home, so I don’t feel trapped that way
I miss living in a punk house with five other bastards. There was always something going on and when I was done being social I could just hole up in my room.
Finally have my own place after sharing various living situations for 20 years and it’s glorious to come home to my tiny apartment and only have to deal with my cat.
Downside is, I no longer have friends or go out. My roommates/SOs always made friends and plans for me, so I never really developed those skills, and now I’m too old to crash DIY venues and not be That Weird Old Guy that comes to all of the shows.
I empathise and understand! I’m pretty awkward with people I don’t know, so meeting new ones is a challenge to be honest.
I spent a year and a half living with my closest buddy in an amazing apartment, and it was quite honestly spectacular. Will be moving cities again after summer, and will put in effort to get a good flatmate situation going.