I’ve noticed that there seems to be an emphasis on being extremely serious at all times, as if every single comment is a PhD dissertation being evaluated or something. There’s like this weird, subtle one upmanship about every little thing and a lot of people are very nitpicky and judgmental. It kind of takes the fun out of being on here, TBH. Or am I the only one experiencing this?
Not ignoring. They have a larger audience, but I felt the general community was more welcomed, and openly themselves here edit: in non-specialized subs.
Ah, there were quite a few great subreddits I was involved in that were incredibly diverse and friendly. I miss those spaces, though I’ve found a couple of communities on Lemmy with similar feel.
I’ve found Lemmy quite harsh and exclusionary for women, so maybe my experience has just been different than yours.
Sorry to hear. I hope that changes fast. My experience on Reddit was vastly different.
The only thing I miss about Reddit was a secret women’s only sub that you could only access by invitation. At one point I got invited and, my god, it was an amazing little space. I posted things there that would’ve been flooded by pervs if I’d posted them on the mainstream site. Like a picture of someone floating in bliss and saying something like, “How my boobs feel when I go swimming.”
The Women Only community here is good, but I really wish it were more private. Although I haven’t seen as many guys getting weird about comments from my perspective on Lemmy as I did on Reddit, it would be wonderful to have an actual private space where we didn’t have to worry about guys coming in, not reading the rules, and commenting anyway.
Does Lemmy not do invite only subs/private subs? Like, could you just make the one you want?
I’d be worried about how other women would find it if it was private. Lemmy is already really small.
By invite.
Not everyone who would find the group a good fit advertises their gender.
Maybe an offshoot private community from the main would be a good idea though.
Not everyone, but bit by bit the community could be built, just as it happened on Reddit. We already have the members of the Women’s Stuff community to start with.
I’m just not sure if Lemmy has private communities in the first place. I’m tech literate in the way all Millennials somewhat are, but by Lemmy standards I’m ignorant. I really don’t know much about the ins and outs of making communities here. If even direct messages aren’t truly private (by the nature of federation), I’m not sure if a private community is possible?
I miss the entwives subreddit :(