Just toying with the idea here. I am thinking about proposing in the next year and I never expected I would be in this position.
My sister was just proposed to and dude must have spent like 10 grand on the ring. I think she feels like he spent too much. It looks like the friggin thing weighs her whole hand down.
Also do you think it is misogynist to ask the lady’s dad for permission?
So is marriage in general in most developed countries.
It’s romantic. Asking the dad for permission is performative but adds to the romance. If someone thinks spending big bucks on an engagement ring is romantic, then go for it. Getting married is an expensive affair anyway.
But yeah, don’t spend it on diamonds because they’re bullshit.
Getting married is effectively signing a communal property contract, which can still have significant legal and financial implications in the developed world. Not all developed countries have the same legal system.
Also, traditional is not the same as romantic. There is nothing romantic about asking the dad, she’s not property. Some traditions deserve to die.
Edit to add: also absolutely shell out on a ring if you want. Just be sure it’s actually what you want, not what you think you should do.
Pretty sure all countries in the EU let you do just that without getting married. You literally aquire exactly the same legal status as a married couple, without actually getting married. Which makes marriage completely obsolete and only performative and romantic.
That’s just your opinion. I think it actually is. Nobody is talking about property anymore. It’s just an expression of intentions these days and is mostly a bonding moment between the groom and her father. It’s actually kind of sweet and emotional.