I think people have an “age bubble” in their brain they use to recognize people of the same age. The bubble only goes so far. 5, 10, whatever amount of years it may be for a person. So as you age, that bubble comes along and the requirements to decide sometime is young or old move with you.
Lol I just smoked and have no idea if this made any sense. Let me know
I think the age bubble thing is real, but it’s got more to do with life stages. I’m in my mid 30s, and a little while ago I was hanging out at a bar and met some people that were 22-24. However, they all had jobs out of high school, and I had an easier time talking to them than a 26 year old grad student I ran into a few months back.
I’ve always been told I look very young for my age (to the point where 24 year olds commonly talk to me like I’m younger than them) so your mileage may vary. Edit: I guess working 24 year olds. A few years back, I was doing a contract in a, I guess, working man’s town. I remember I met a dude and a girl at the bar, and the girl asked me to guess her age. My honest guess was 50, so I said 36. She was like “wow, I’m 37, good guess” and the guy was like "heh, once you get to my age, you’ll know to always underestimate. I asked him how old he was. He said 24. He looked older than me. I was 32. Welding and trades really fuck you up.
Its also how I look at age gap relationships. Like, a college freshman and a college senior might be three years apart, but the weird dudes I remember from the dorms were freshmen dating high school seniors…they might be less than six months apart in age, but they’re in different stages of life.
And of course, I look around at the old people bar I’m literally sitting in right now, and I see a bunch of 50/70 type couples, which is perfectly reasonable.
That’s because a lot of youth language has more to do with year of birth than with age. I fades out a bit but I will still say stuff I said as a teenager and people who were my current age back then identified as youth language. I’m sure there is youth slang from decades or centuries ago, we think of standard today
I don’t think so, I think age inherently adds context to what you know/are interested in and there absolutely is a point where contextually speaking you’re no longer peers, you can definitely still be friendly/friends but it feels different from being friends with a person who shares the same context to your interests. I was recently talking to a young man about music and he’s into pop-punk, the same genre I was into when I was in highschool, and I was talking to him about all the influences I heard from those bands in the music he listens to and he couldn’t share that insight, not that it wasn’t an interesting conversation but it felt more like I was in a mentor position teaching him about his interest rather that equally sharing and exploring the interest. I think in depth knowledge can make up this gap and erase the age factor but in general the context around the interest does change and does matter when it comes to connecting
I’m 24 and speaking to a 13 year old makes me feel 45.
I think people have an “age bubble” in their brain they use to recognize people of the same age. The bubble only goes so far. 5, 10, whatever amount of years it may be for a person. So as you age, that bubble comes along and the requirements to decide sometime is young or old move with you.
Lol I just smoked and have no idea if this made any sense. Let me know
I think the age bubble thing is real, but it’s got more to do with life stages. I’m in my mid 30s, and a little while ago I was hanging out at a bar and met some people that were 22-24. However, they all had jobs out of high school, and I had an easier time talking to them than a 26 year old grad student I ran into a few months back.
I’ve always been told I look very young for my age (to the point where 24 year olds commonly talk to me like I’m younger than them) so your mileage may vary. Edit: I guess working 24 year olds. A few years back, I was doing a contract in a, I guess, working man’s town. I remember I met a dude and a girl at the bar, and the girl asked me to guess her age. My honest guess was 50, so I said 36. She was like “wow, I’m 37, good guess” and the guy was like "heh, once you get to my age, you’ll know to always underestimate. I asked him how old he was. He said 24. He looked older than me. I was 32. Welding and trades really fuck you up.
I think you might be onto something there. I like it.
Its also how I look at age gap relationships. Like, a college freshman and a college senior might be three years apart, but the weird dudes I remember from the dorms were freshmen dating high school seniors…they might be less than six months apart in age, but they’re in different stages of life.
And of course, I look around at the old people bar I’m literally sitting in right now, and I see a bunch of 50/70 type couples, which is perfectly reasonable.
yea I think that was brilliant and I’m ready to bet money it’s a real anthropology thing
that being said I had an edible
That’s because a lot of youth language has more to do with year of birth than with age. I fades out a bit but I will still say stuff I said as a teenager and people who were my current age back then identified as youth language. I’m sure there is youth slang from decades or centuries ago, we think of standard today
Maybe youre right, maybe you’re not. Its probably more so about the shared interests rather than the inherent age.
The thing is, those that are of similar age may have a higher probability of similar interests than those with higher deviation from your age.
I don’t think so, I think age inherently adds context to what you know/are interested in and there absolutely is a point where contextually speaking you’re no longer peers, you can definitely still be friendly/friends but it feels different from being friends with a person who shares the same context to your interests. I was recently talking to a young man about music and he’s into pop-punk, the same genre I was into when I was in highschool, and I was talking to him about all the influences I heard from those bands in the music he listens to and he couldn’t share that insight, not that it wasn’t an interesting conversation but it felt more like I was in a mentor position teaching him about his interest rather that equally sharing and exploring the interest. I think in depth knowledge can make up this gap and erase the age factor but in general the context around the interest does change and does matter when it comes to connecting