• Don_DickleOP
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    4 days ago

    I highly doubt your partner is going to yell out directions like up down sideways while trying to have an orgasm.

    • toomanypancakes@crazypeople.online
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      4 days ago

      First of all, communication during sex is pretty normal. I’ve absolutely given directions during, because if I want him to go harder on it or if he’s missing the spot or something then I want him to know that.

      Secondly, there’s no reason you can’t have a conversation not in the moment too. You can absolutely discuss likes, wants, and dislikes ahead of time. If you want to make your partner feel as good as you can, it’s a good idea to check with them how they like it at some point.

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      4 days ago

      Well then your doubt is misplaced!

      You know what most people love? Receiving oral the way they like it! It’s not a hard sell.

      The bigger challenge is that a lot of people don’t know their own bodies or what they like well. But communication is really the key, along with guided experimentation.

    • crwth@piefed.zip
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      4 days ago

      You don’t need that sort of instructions, just vague feedback on what’s good and what isn’t is sufficient. Do more stuff like what got good feedback and less stuff like what got bad feedback. Think of it as AI training set and hope you have enough I to learn without the A.

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      3 days ago

      People are being a bit rough with all the downvotes, your partner might not just yell out directions like google maps when you’re going the wrong way, but you can (and should) ask, in which case they are very likely to answer.