I’m beginning to accept that I may never be in a relationship again. There are life expectations I have for myself, some admittedly selfish, but really, the idea of having to deal with another grownup who is as obstinate as I am has left me disillusioned about relationships. But I want to have kids. I want to be a father. For women, its fairy easy, go to a sperm bank, pick your choice, get the procedure done and you are on your way. What is the process for dudes? I believe its going to involve a surrogate, but where does one get a donor egg and what not? I am not looking to have a relationship with an egg donor or the surrogate, just me and the kids.

        • Zarobi@aussie.zoneEnglish
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          2 days ago

          When I’m out by myself with the kiddo I don’t feel judged at all. If anything some people compliment me on it, which feels like being complimented for not being neglectful but I’ll take it.

          It feels dangerous to play or even talk with other people’s kids though, but that’s a different thing.

        • S_H_K@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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          2 days ago

          Why this gets downvoted? It’s true we get different judgements by different people. As a father I’ve been judged for so much shit you wouldn’t believe. Hell recently I had a Karen ask my why I gone to an anime convention with my daughter and if the mother knows. Bitch she is 14 and we both like anime wtf?

        • Zwuzelmaus@feddit.org
          2·
          2 days ago

          Not like single fathers are judged.

          Rightfully so! Most of them have killed their wives anyway.

          /s