I suppose I’d have to disagree with that last statement, as someone who lives in a functioning multi-generational household lol. It’s not going to work for everyone every time, depending on circumstances, but having 3 generations in the house pooling resources is how most of the world does it.
It certainly helps to have a separate space/entrance for privacy and such, but now that we’re settled in, it’s far better than it was when we were going it alone. We have everything covered between the 3 adults, and then some: I work, cover utilities, build stuff, cook repair and maintain everything that needs repair and maintenance. The wife stays at home with our toddler. Her mom covers the mortgage and occasionally babysits when we need it. The occasional family friend who needs a place to crash for a while contributes their bit. We make adjustments here and there to keep everyone happy and maintain fairness. Everyone wins in this arrangement, and there’s no shame.
Your example is kind of an extreme trope IMO, I’ve only seen true “failure to launch” scenarios in media. I’m sure they exist somewhere, but it’s not too big an issue to be moralizing about.
Glad it works for you, for other folks, like myself, it would be a waking nightmare to live that way. Not everyone gets along with their family. For some people, being away from family is the only way they can be healthy and happy. For many people their families are nothing but a burden on them and a drain on their well-being. Not everyone has the luck of having family that is supportive and cooperative. Some of us come from families where our parents actively tried to fuck us over and fucked themselves over and we spend our entire life trying to get out of the self-imposed misery.
Further, again I"m not talking about multi-generational households by free choice or other cultural practices. I’m talking about people who are dependents, like they can’t function without their parents money or approval, and often are in toxic and abusive relationships with each other, where both parties would be better w/o the dependency.
I suppose I’d have to disagree with that last statement, as someone who lives in a functioning multi-generational household lol. It’s not going to work for everyone every time, depending on circumstances, but having 3 generations in the house pooling resources is how most of the world does it.
It certainly helps to have a separate space/entrance for privacy and such, but now that we’re settled in, it’s far better than it was when we were going it alone. We have everything covered between the 3 adults, and then some: I work, cover utilities, build stuff, cook repair and maintain everything that needs repair and maintenance. The wife stays at home with our toddler. Her mom covers the mortgage and occasionally babysits when we need it. The occasional family friend who needs a place to crash for a while contributes their bit. We make adjustments here and there to keep everyone happy and maintain fairness. Everyone wins in this arrangement, and there’s no shame.
Your example is kind of an extreme trope IMO, I’ve only seen true “failure to launch” scenarios in media. I’m sure they exist somewhere, but it’s not too big an issue to be moralizing about.
Glad it works for you, for other folks, like myself, it would be a waking nightmare to live that way. Not everyone gets along with their family. For some people, being away from family is the only way they can be healthy and happy. For many people their families are nothing but a burden on them and a drain on their well-being. Not everyone has the luck of having family that is supportive and cooperative. Some of us come from families where our parents actively tried to fuck us over and fucked themselves over and we spend our entire life trying to get out of the self-imposed misery.
Further, again I"m not talking about multi-generational households by free choice or other cultural practices. I’m talking about people who are dependents, like they can’t function without their parents money or approval, and often are in toxic and abusive relationships with each other, where both parties would be better w/o the dependency.