Scenario: It’s night, and a man is walking home. He sees ahead there is a woman going in the opposite direction as him. Knowing not to stop or approach her, but his presence makes her nervous. What would help further in this scenario if anything?

  • Tanis Nikana
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    8 hours ago

    Walk to the side of the sidewalk and make room for us women. Please don’t keep walking in a straight line and expect for us to get off the sidewalk.

    I collide with men who don’t move for oncoming people.

    • felsiq@piefed.zip
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      41 minutes ago

      As someone who’s looked outwardly male my whole life, this is so outside my experience I didn’t even understand what you meant until I read the other subcomments. I thought you were implying sidewalks aren’t wide enough for two people to pass, because that seemed more plausible than the reality that women apparently live with??

      It’s always crazy to hear common things women deal with that are genuinely inconceivable to guys - I just wish more of them were positive or at least neutral 😭

    • Catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      7 hours ago

      Oh damn, one of those pre-transition things I almost forgot about! That used to happen to me so often, and now when it does it sticks out as ‘wow, that dude was a prick’. It’s wild that nothing about me changed except how masculine other people read me and it basically just stopped happening.

      • Wren@lemmy.today
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        6 hours ago

        Oh my god, do men not get randomly shoved and walked into on the sidewalk?

        • Catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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          5 hours ago

          Barely a fraction as much! I would wager the amount it happens to me (rarely) has more to do with me looking like a short nerd, or it being a really crowded sidewalk or something. But the only time I experience that ‘I see you are there and I’m not getting out of the way’ walking towards you that I used to experience all the time pre-transition is when it’s someone that seems out to cause trouble or has some kind of chip on their shoulder.

          • Wren@lemmy.today
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            5 hours ago

            Now I’m an even angrier feminist. I thought people were just dicks without spatial awareness. I should wear more spikes.