i’ve never heard someone think this way before, so it did shock me but idk how to feel about it. so, basically, he said that while the general belief seems to be (the stuff i’ve come across) that you should try to help a depressed person feel better and talk them out of (idk how much i can say) doing something bad to themselves if they’re considering it, that it’s actually selfish to do. he also said that people who feel/think this way are angels being called to heaven because they were too good for life on earth, and that you should respect a person’s wishes to die or a depressed person’s wish to not get better or else you’re a toxic and bad person.
i’m just curious because i don’t know if i can trust or agree with much of anything my ex says because of how he treated me and how he’d make fun of my mental health and make mean jokes/bully me for not wanting to talk to him because he’d ignore me and my anxiety, he’d just laugh at me when i said i was depressed or anxious.
Sure, you can say it is selfish to want to save someone. Does it matter to the person who is about to jump that they are saved by someone who feels self-important/selfish.
The problem is that it is just saying something does not make it true. The reality is an act of trying to save someone is inherently unselfish unless there are some pretty extreme mitigating circumstances.
People that have been beat down and abused are not angels being called to heaven. They are deeply hurt individuals that need support not a death sentence from society. This reeks of someone desperately trying to justify suicide in their head by letting someone die rather than dealing with their problems.
Suicidal thoughts come and go, sometimes rather quickly. Should you respect the fact that someone is in crisis and is going to kill themselves, but ten minutes later wants to live, by letting them act on an unhealthy impulse.
I had a friend who used to make fun of mental health issues people had until his girlfriend left him and became a lesbian. Suddenly he was in the hospital for suicidal thoughts, depression, and panic attacks. This just sounds like someone who has never experienced these issues acting like an asshole.