My Narcissist dad would do the same thing. Every once in a while, he’d go way out of his way to make me happy by purchasing a shitload of something. I want to believe that he did it because he felt guilty for being a shitty dad, but deep down I know it was just a manipulation tactic to win me over so that he can maintain control.
Unfortunately therapy didn’t work for him because he only listened to the parts he wanted to hear, and used it as a weapon against the entire family. When he died 5 years ago I was both saddened and relieved. Dude really knew how to suck all the energy out of the room.
“If I give you things, that is me expressing the love you apparently desire. Here you are.”
It’s sad to see, but she’s trying. A lot of narcissists are like that. Transactional, kind of.
My Narcissist dad would do the same thing. Every once in a while, he’d go way out of his way to make me happy by purchasing a shitload of something. I want to believe that he did it because he felt guilty for being a shitty dad, but deep down I know it was just a manipulation tactic to win me over so that he can maintain control.
Unfortunately therapy didn’t work for him because he only listened to the parts he wanted to hear, and used it as a weapon against the entire family. When he died 5 years ago I was both saddened and relieved. Dude really knew how to suck all the energy out of the room.