Also, somehow or another I guess it’s gotta come out.

Probably only recommended if you’re financially independent and live elsewhere. If things go poorly, you need a way to be able to leave. And if you have those first two, it’s probably best to do it slowly/gradually.

But for your first question, “That’s horrible. Why would you wish that on other people?” is often a great go-to to make people introspect. They might not do it in that moment, but your kids calling your thoughts and desires horrible has a way of sticking with you. (Source: am a parent)

And if you don’t live with your parents, you could even throw in, “What if I lived in California? Would you still wish for the hurricane?”