But lots of people seeking advice are alsonseeking validation, consciously or not. So they end up seeking advice from those who will tell them what they want to hear. If they also then choose to disregard criticism from anyone else, they never get honest feedback.
Much like the advice ‘don’t eat the yellow snow’ requires you to not be colour blind, the advice ‘only listen to those worthy of your respect’ requires you to be capable of telling the difference between compassion and obsequiousness. Both are good advice, but there are prerequisites which may preclude the handicapped.
But lots of people seeking advice are alsonseeking validation, consciously or not. So they end up seeking advice from those who will tell them what they want to hear. If they also then choose to disregard criticism from anyone else, they never get honest feedback.
Much like the advice ‘don’t eat the yellow snow’ requires you to not be colour blind, the advice ‘only listen to those worthy of your respect’ requires you to be capable of telling the difference between compassion and obsequiousness. Both are good advice, but there are prerequisites which may preclude the handicapped.
I wouldn’t be surprised if most people asking for advice aren’t actually looking for solutions. They just want their decisions validated.