It’s not ok or not ok. It’s none of our damn business who he bones off the clock.

But the issue isn’t the affair or having side-ass. The issue is one of the women he was boning was a spy and the others were subordinates.

You might be able to wave-away the spy as “oops, got honey-potted” but there is no universe in which it’s ok to fuck people who work for you. This shouldn’t really be a tough sell in this community.