• Kushan
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    2 hours ago

    Absolutely this!

    I’m not particularly good looking and I’ve been overweight/unfit my entire life.

    I have NEVER had problems getting dates or getting laid. I’m polyamorus these days, which narrows down the dating pool quite a bit and it still is not an issue.

    The secret is just…be honest? Be authentic and treat people like people, regardless of their gender.

    The bar really is low.

    • Wildmimic@anarchist.nexus
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      21 minutes ago

      I agree. I am a pretty damaged person and always had weight problems, but after i turned 18, the first time i am single is now - i’m 45 now. Difference to the people i knew that always had problems finding a partner was mainly listening, treating women like everyone else, and having some fucking decency.