What has everyone got for their dad’s, who are usually particularly hard to buy for?

Also, to add a caveat, totally fine to have a complicated relationship with your dad. If this is the case, please be kind to yourself and ignore this post!

    • NiOP
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      41 year ago

      I’m with you here, I have a very complicated guilt filled relationship with my dad and often this time of year causes issues. I always think it’s nice to focus on the positive father figures or even mentors in your life and reach out to show appreciation and know none of this is on you!

      • @TeaHands
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        31 year ago

        Eh it’s been 11 years since he went off the rails so I’m pretty much over it. Sucks around his bday but on weekends like this I’m mostly just happy to not have to spend time and money on an awkward meal out like most people I know. Gonna lounge in pyjamas instead and nobody can even make me feel bad for it lol.

        • NiOP
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          21 year ago

          Honestly I admire you so much for this. I am feeling the guilt to go have to spend time with my dad over spending time with my partner (who is an amazing dad). As you say it’s always awkward and toxic but still the guilt remains. Great that are prioritising yourself, have a wonderful weekend!

          • @TeaHands
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            31 year ago

            Well I hope that whatever you do, it’s as bearable as possible and you get to come home to your awesome partner asap. I don’t know your situation so can’t comment any further on that, just remember your feelings in all of this matter too.

            • NiOP
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              31 year ago

              Thank you, yours to. Hope you have a lovely weekend!

    • aeternum
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      21 year ago

      My dad ran out on us when i was a toddler. So yeah. That’s how my father’s day is gonna be.

      • @TeaHands
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        31 year ago

        In the best traditions of British understatement…that’s a bit of a bugger :(

      • NiOP
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        21 year ago

        Sorry to hear that, best to treat yourself extra kindly on sunday.

    • gramo
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      21 year ago

      same here, I haven’t heard from him in 8 years, not sure if he’s still alive

      • NiOP
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        11 year ago

        Yeah it’s so tricky, people seem to assume that you should have a great relationship with your parents, I certainly don’t . Instead, treat yourself nicely this weekend!

        • Bunjog
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          11 year ago

          Agreed! Love for your parent should be earned not assumed.

          • NiOP
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            11 year ago

            Absolutely! We expect people to be reasonable and treat us with respect in all other relationships, why not with our families?

        • e-ratic
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          01 year ago

          My local football club I support had a father’s day promotion, but a couple weeks beforehand they sent out an email allowing people to opt out. Really nice to see

          • NiOP
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            11 year ago

            Things like, allowing people to opt out, and accepting possible family estrangment needs to be normalised.