I’m in the market for books that normalize poly parenting. I have the Red Stroller for normalizing different family types (eg. single parent, gay, interracial).

My child’s other parent (separated) is very conservative and my family is too. I’m not trying to “push” poly, but prepare my kid mentally/emotionally if people say shit about me. I still have several years before I would need to come out.

  • @breadsmasher
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    -191 year ago

    why do your kids need to know about your sex life?

    • recursive_recursion [they/them]
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      1 year ago

      isn’t the reason to explain why the kid might have multiple parents in comparison to other children? (sort of like how some children might have only 2 dads, 2 moms, or 2 nonbinary parents) (ah derp they already mentioned this in their post lol)

      based on the post it doesn’t seem like their intention is to talk about their sex life as you say, that just sounds off and real bizarre

      • @[email protected]OP
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        71 year ago

        Yeah. This is literally just to simplify the questions of why do I have multiple boy/girlfriends. It’s not like I can hide that from my kid.

        The alternative is to let them think I’m cheating, which is what other people in my kid’s life will tell him.

        It’s no different than trying to answer the two dads question.

    • @[email protected]
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      81 year ago

      Poly is about more than sex.

      Ethical non monogamy is uncommon so there are very few cultural signposts about it. It’s reasonable to want to see yourself or your situation reflected in media. Some families have multiple adults in loving relationships simultaneously.

    • tjhart85
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      81 year ago

      I know, right?! It’s like those people that wear these weird bands to show to the world that they’ve been ‘taken’ or whatever, like, I get it, but please - stop shoving your ‘lifestyle’ down my throat, ok?! Call me old fashioned, but I think they should keep their kinks to themselves and shouldn’t be allowed to wear their weird “wedding rings” in public where children can see them!

      OP isn’t asking how to introduce their kids to the concept of BDSM or asking to explain how they like being tied up, for fucks sake, they’re asking if there are child friendly books to help explain that you can love multiple people. Most monogamous folks introduce their partner to their kids after 6-12 months, so why wouldn’t poly folks be able to do the same?

      OP - Unfortunately, I think books around LGBTQIA+ and then having a conversation might be the best you’re going to get from the quick research I just did. At the very least, your options are slim if you do manage to find anything.