Edit2: It’s a subjective perception I’m talking about. Are you offended? Why?

What’s the matter, why can’t men deal with me being sensitive and emotional? Is it because they struggle with me reminding them of having, too, emotions?

Edit: Do men think I’m weak when I show emotions? If so, why?? Why do women see it as a sign of strength when men are vulnerable, but men don’t seem to get it? Are they/are we dumb??

  • MonkeytennisEnglish
    64•1 year ago

    Plenty of men can deal with this, and plenty of women can’t. It’s not helpful to see this as a gender thing, you’ll only feel more alienated. You might want to seek out some new social connections?

    • @NightAuthorEnglish
      23•1 year ago

      Ignoring strong correlations because “not all” is less helpful.

      Most men, in western society, have issues with expressing emotions other than anger. I’m certain I could find studies as proof, but don’t we all already know this to be true?

      • SharkEatingBreakfast
        11•1 year ago

        We do. Isn’t there currently an epidemic of men having to deal with a slew of mental health issues, not knowing what to do/how to deal with it?

        Yeah. That.

      • MonkeytennisEnglish
        7•1 year ago

        You missed my point. I’m ignoring nothing, I’m suggesting OP seek out men who will be supportive, because they’re not hard to find.

        I’m certain I could find studies as proof, but don’t we all already know this to be true?

          • dumdum666
            3•1 year ago

            I picked the first three results from your search and they don’t support your argument at all. They even call it out as a stereotype (which it is).

            Male leaders received lower effectiveness ratings when expressing sadness compared to neutrality, while female leaders received lower ratings when expressing either sadness or anger.

            So sadness for leaders is neither ok for women or men.

            https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1002/(SICI)1099-1379(200003)21:2%3C221::AID-JOB36%3E3.0.CO;2-0

            Design: Questionnaires were administered to 41 women and 41 men using a cross-sectional study design.

            Rather small sample size and the conclusion was very cautiously worded … so no facts that support your theory.

            https://bpspsychub.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1348/135910703322370851

            The analysis of emoticon (emotional icon) use in online newsgroups appears to reinforce the stereotype of the emotional female and the inexpressive male until further examination suggests otherwise. The most interesting finding of this study is illustrated by the pattern of change that develops for both genders when they move from a predominantly same gender newsgroup to a mixed-gender newsgroup. The changes that take place in emoticon use when moving from same-gender to mixed-gender newsgroups indicate that rather than the emotional expression of females being silenced or muted by male encoding of emoticons, males adopt the female standard of expressing more emotion. Furthermore, women have added dimensions including solidarity, support, assertion of positive feelings, and thanks, which were absent from the male-created definition of emoticons and their use.

            No proof for your theory either.

            https://www.liebertpub.com/doi/abs/10.1089/10949310050191809

            • @NightAuthorEnglish
              1•1 year ago

              I may come back and review some more of the literature, because it really is an interesting topic.

              Your last citation there actually seems relevant to OP, since they’re asking about this difference in how they feel around other men vs in mixed groups.

              It would be useful to know if there are indeed more studies like this that maybe show that the stereotype (which aren’t inherently wrong or negative) is too vague, and i would like to know the specifics, maybe the stereotype only holds in male-dominant spaces. Or (and I think I’ve read this) when males are primed to act more masculine.