• @Potatos_are_not_friends
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    3348 months ago

    One time, I put my hand out to stop a kid from running into the street.

    Most people were like “Woah that kid almost died.” But one Karen looking woman had a “How dare you touch that child” look.

    I’m not going to stop saving kids who run into the street. But it did make me question when to involve myself or not. And I can see a lot of people hesitating because some fuckface has something stupid to say.

    • @Treczoks
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      1278 months ago

      Yep. People have strange selective views on things.

      I was standing with the car at the crossing where it enters the main road. A kid came racing down the bike path from the local primary school on his scooter and tried to get around my car without wasting speed, i.e. slowing down. Physics said: “NO” in no uncertain terms, and the kid kissed the road in front of my car. I got out to help, but he already got up, probably more annoyed about loosing speed than anything else, answered negative on my inquiry if he was hurt or needed help, and was off like lighting.

      Two days later, the police was at my door, responding to a neighbors claim that I had run over a kid that day…

      • @[email protected]
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        288 months ago

        I could imagine that neighbour just heard some noise, looked outside, and then just concluded, you must’ve hit that child, from what the aftermath looked like…

    • @[email protected]
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      1028 months ago

      A man stopped my son with his hand from crossing at the signal because a car didn’t see him and could have mowed him down. I think a lot about how that could have gone badly if the man had second guessed himself for even a moment. Legally and socially, we need to be on the side of anyone who makes a split second decision to help in a crisis.

    • circuitfarmer
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      368 months ago

      Exactly. As much as I believe in being a good person and trying to stop others from coming to harm, there is now a not-nonsignificant chance that I end up being prosecuted for something as a result of stepping in to attempt to save a life. It deincentivizes such activities.

    • Seditious Delicious
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      88 months ago

      Nah man. I won’t go near kids. Not my problem… If they die because of stupidity… it’s just thinning the heard.

    • @[email protected]
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      -1018 months ago

      You inferred one look from a stranger experiencing a traumatic event, that apparently wasn’t reinforced by conversation with her after the fact!? I don’t think you should modify anything about your instincts or responses…

      • @[email protected]
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        968 months ago

        You psychoanalyzed him from one comment on an Internet forum without a single reply or anything?

        See how that sounds?

        • @[email protected]
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          Uh, no? No one’s analyzing here! I basically told them to trust their instincts, rather than defer to the minority opinion of “all men are pedophiles” (based on their interpretation of the Karen’s response). Same advice I would give male lifeguards who would hesitate in possibly saving a life because maybe one person would be hyper-sensitive to any contact. Do what’s good and true and right immediately, and deal with haters later…

          • @[email protected]
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            48 months ago

            Nah, cause those haters could put my ass in jail.

            So no, I will assess every situation. I ain’t touching a woman who’s down.

            Thank the assholes of the world for that… And also the coworker who flirted with me, and when I didn’t flirt with her, she accused me of sexual harassment and I got fired - 30 years ago.

            The shit is real, (shitty) women have made the bed, they can lie in it.

      • @Cringe2793
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        48 months ago

        All it takes is one person to accuse you for your life to be ruined. Such is the reality of being a man.

        • Instigate
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          -28 months ago

          Accusations ruin plenty of people’s lives, regardless of gender.

          • @Cringe2793
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            18 months ago

            Men’s more than women’s, tbh. Accusations of SA never go away, even if you’re proven innocent.

            • Instigate
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              28 months ago

              Source for accusations against men leading to quantifiably worse outcomes than accusations against women or NB people? I haven’t seen the research that backs up your assertion.

      • @[email protected]
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        8 months ago

        Don’t you know? Every woman who is middle aged and doesn’t give an appreciating look all the time I want is a misandrist Karen. And if someone dies, it’s her and other women’s fault.