Recently I read through the comments on a post and someone suggested OP should „just read the room“.
I have been told this since I was young and it triggers me every time.
Being unaware of social dynamics in a situation is a thing a lot of autistic people I know struggle with. „Reading the room“ in my understanding means „becoming aware of the unspoken things in a situation“.
Collins dictionary says: If you say that someone reads the room, you mean that they understand their audience and adapt what they say to suit it.
I think, although not on purpose, saying this is massively ableist and making fun of someone for „not reading the room“ is harassment imo.
Feel free to give an opposing opinion as well. I would like to hear them.
Reading the room can be other things as well. It didn’t have to be difficult to observe social dynamics. Sometimes it can be really obvious, and someone is just deliberately trying to be disruptive. Not to disagree with you about it bring ablest, I totally agree with you on that point, but I think there are more situations that aren’t covered by what you describe
Probably. But i have been accused of doing this on purpose while i am neurologically unable to. This being anecdotal evidence I still think a lot of those we perceive as malignant are secretly unable.