Also no obligations. He can get divorced and not have to worry about paying child support.
Or he can choose to adopt them, which would grant those custody and paternal rights.
Would you be looking at this differently if the children weren’t hers? If she had no kids, Anon was shooting blanks, and they just decided to go to an orphanage and adopt?
It’s not about what you’re obligated to, it’s about the emotional attachment to children that won’t necessarily remain in your life.
As for adoption, you try that with a person you’ve known for a year or less, see how that works out for you. But yes, if they agree, then sure, i think adoption is fair.
What is not fair is having someone responsible for and bonding with your kids, regardless of gender, and never giving them parenrsl rights.
If they adopted kids it would be their kids, so no issue.
Also no obligations. He can get divorced and not have to worry about paying child support.
Or he can choose to adopt them, which would grant those custody and paternal rights.
Would you be looking at this differently if the children weren’t hers? If she had no kids, Anon was shooting blanks, and they just decided to go to an orphanage and adopt?
It’s not about what you’re obligated to, it’s about the emotional attachment to children that won’t necessarily remain in your life.
As for adoption, you try that with a person you’ve known for a year or less, see how that works out for you. But yes, if they agree, then sure, i think adoption is fair.
What is not fair is having someone responsible for and bonding with your kids, regardless of gender, and never giving them parenrsl rights.
If they adopted kids it would be their kids, so no issue.