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    212 years ago

    As it’s Pride month (love all my gay/queer/trans homies and homettes) I’d like to share that we have had three separate friends of our kids, come out to us before telling their parents.

    My wife responds with a motherly hug and I put the kettle on.

    I’ve told all the kids that if they need adult backup when (if) they tell their parents, I’ll happily accompany them and offer sanctuary, just in case.

    I may not be their parent, but I’ll pretend to be one if it makes them feel safe.

    I don’t share this a lot in real-life to keep our space safe for the kids, but felt like saying it here tonight.

    • @[email protected]
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      62 years ago

      i have always been lucky enough to be surrounded by people who have accepted me for who I am (a big ol’ dyke). But even when I KNEW that my friends and family would be totally fine with it, I told a few people who werent necessarily my closest friends/relatives but who I trusted implicitly…just in case that 1% fear came true and my friends/family really did react poorly, I’d know I had someone to turn to.

      Turns out they all twigged before I did, so, y’know, there’s that.

      Rhanka for being a good egg for your friend’s kids.

      • @[email protected]
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        42 years ago

        I had a mate in high school who came out to us at graduation.

        Out group’s reaction was along the lines of ‘no shit dude’ ’ we knew and wondered how long it would take you’ and of course ‘if you need a place to crash we have a spare room’

        We were so happy that he finally was able to be who he always was.

        It wasn’t a big thing for us but a massive event for him. He was also from a very conservative Catholic family/culture which made it very hard on him.

        Being there for our kids’friends is just the most natural thing. A warm meal, roof and a sympathetic shoulder is the least we can do.

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        22 years ago

        My wife has this amazing ability of having anyone and everyone open up to her.

        She’s had new friends (like meeting for a second time) confide in her.

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        52 years ago

        We’re young enough to remember that puberty is fucking crazy and old enough to recognise that kids need love and acceptance.

        If someone enters our house, they’re are under protection, whatever that entails.

        Eating our bread and salt makes them our responsibility when here.

        It’s the least we can do.

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          32 years ago

          I understand. I’m not against you or anything. It’s great that the kids have safe havens to go to, if they need. I’m not a kid

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              32 years ago

              Ok good. Added context is good. For a split second I thought maybe you saw me a youngster (kid) that didn’t understand. But yeah you’re a good ally but good parents too which is great.

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      2 years ago

      Good on ya! I wish I had someone around when I was younger to tell me it’s ok to be who I am, or give me the love and support to go out there and find out. Trying to do that shit in secret sucks ass! Edit: it’s not an exaggeration to say you’ve probably saved some of these kids lives.