I’m not a programmer, so I can’t really contribute anything to answer your question. However, I can recommend a resource!

Our chat has a room for technology. While it’s not strictly a programming room, this community seems to have a ton of programmers, so there is bound to be someone there that could help. There may be others that have had experiences similar to yours, so they could share what has and hasn’t helped them. While it may not be the best and most reliable support for learning to program, meaning it might not be a good idea to depend on it entirely, it could be part of your toolkit to get support since the users will likely be more considerate of autistic traits and thinking styles.