• Flying Squid
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    41 year ago

    strict control of access to bathrooms

    They still do this. The middle school I just took my daughter out of (she was being bullied by half the school) had a maximum number of bathroom breaks per child per semester. I told my daughter that if she ran out of breaks, she should tell the teacher I either do it in the bathroom or right here on the floor. You pick.

    • squiblet
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      11 year ago

      Well, I hope your daughter is doing well. You seem pretty savvy, maybe home school her? Sorry if that’s not a feasible suggestion.

      Anyway, peeing on a teacher is not a good move. Vomiting on a non-reasonable teacher is a power move.

      • Flying Squid
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        1 year ago

        Thank you. She’s not better yet, but this was like 2 weeks ago. We’ve put her in online schooling for now. We might try sending her to another middle school next semester. The online school is run through the school corporation, but it’s too hard for her to do by herself. She’s lucky I’m on FMLA right now. But it’s ridiculous, they bought the cheapest education package possible from whatever corporation and all the English texts are public domain 19th century texts. 7th grade is way too young to be able to read an O. Henry story about a safecracker with an ironic twist ending or an H. H. Munro story about English Edwardian manners and understand what the fuck is going on. So basically I have to sit with her, read the text for her because she can’t figure out how a lot of the words are pronounced, while we stop every few sentences so I can explain to her what it means. We’ve looked up the texts and most of them are at least a 10th grade level. The English teacher they have assigned to this program has been very unhelpful and not very responsive.

        I feel sort of trapped, because what if she has the same issues in the next middle school? She is very independent in terms of not conforming with the other kids (she was the only one who wore punky clothes and jewelry) and she does have psychological issues that make it harder and make her act less like the other kids, especially when she gets stressed and has to let it out, which is basically middle school code for ‘bully this child.’ The entire school called her a furry because she wore studded leather collars. To her credit, she kept wearing them despite that bullying, but eventually we got her up and ready for school one day and she completely broke down and said there was no way she could face another day of it. What’s especially awful is that while every kid in the school piles on her, every adult she meets thinks she’s awesome, although them telling her so isn’t enough for her self-esteem.

        We did less structured and ultimately badly-done online schooling during COVID. It was bad in other ways, but more importantly, I don’t know how long we can survive on a single income again and that’s what will have to happen if we keep her in online school.

        Sorry, had to vent.