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Harping on people to get married from up in the ivory tower fails to engage with reality of life in the dating trenches.
It’s a machine designed by capitalism to make more money, not necessarily be effective. If it was effective at its job, it would make no money. I would love to see smarter people than me, make some good algorithm style dating match app, that just helps people find like people.
To give you a slight perspective on the multiple / hundreds of messages a day, imagine they’re 90% sleezoids and only 10% are probably decent men, getting flooded with heaps of messages then makes it the tiresome task of finding a needle in a haystack, exhausting work. I would argue that getting more messages isn’t a better place to be. If I had to choose, I wouldn’t choose that option.
Don’t get bitter, take the time to well round yourself, build yourself up a better version, that’s wisdom, anyway, and you’ll be happier inside a levelled up version of yourself, either way. And be patient with the women wading through the mud trying to get to you.
I can’t imagine how much wears you down to get an endless tide of shit guys. I’m not bitter, I’m doing A-okay, I’m happy with my self and happy with my life and would only want a relationship that adds to my life and I to hers. I appreciate the kind words! I’m keeping some dating apps active just in case I find a great match with good chemistry, but my periods of depression are behind me thankfully. But early on, it was rough, so I know what other guys are probably going through too.
No one says you need to spend a fortune on a wedding.
You can do it in your back yard for the price of admission.
If you’re with someone who can’t accept that then you’re with the wrong person.