I solved this problem for myself yesterday and couldn’t find the answer anywhere online (clearly stated), so here’s what I did.

This also works for Plex, games, etc it’s policy based routing so you can have your VPN and remote access at the same time.

This configuration is for your ssh server (ie your home PC) that has a VPN running like ProtonVPN etc and allows you to connect back to your home PC remotely either for SSH, plex, anything you’re serving.

This is changing the default gateway for particular ports, so that return traffic from connection attempts doesn’t go back out through the VPN.

I used this page to figure out how to do this:

http://linux-ip.net/html/tools-ip-rule.html

Add a default route to some table, arbitrarily table 10 but you can use whatever number (RTFM), also obviously needs to be your router IP

sudo ip route add default via 192.168.19.1 table 10

Add a rule for the return traffic from your ssh host

sudo ip rule add sport 22 table 10

sudo ip route flush cache

check out your fancy new rule

ip rule show

And to make this persistent across reboots, add to:

/etc/systemd/network/20-wired.network

(or whatever your file there is, add the following to the bottom. This is the same as above, just permanent)

[Route]
Gateway=192.168.19.1
Table=10

[RoutingPolicyRule]
SourcePort=22
Table=10