To preface, i do have some trauma, regarding two separate incidents that happened years ago and years apart, but since the last i have found it difficult to be outside sober without getting very anxious about my safety.

Walking past anyone, the potential of locking eyes or the potential of random people talking to me are things i worry about or become almost fixated on regardless of who they are and who im with. I cant just walk down a street, even busy ones without being hyper vigilant.

Has anyone ever gotten over this kind of anxiety? If so, how?

(Ive been to therapy and I’ve already processed a lot of what happened, but i still get this anxiety when leaving the house or just being outside in the streets)

  • @LeviiOPEnglish
    3•1 year ago

    Thank you for the reply, I do go outside, almost everyday actually, I see friends and everything. Sometimes i really dont want to, but do so anyway. But still cant shake this feeling, im super sociable, go to events for music etc. but when im just out, or at a bar, i cant help but have this feeling. Im still working on it I guess

    • @VubDappleEnglish
      2•1 year ago

      It can help to treat that part of you which is super anxious like you would a frightened child you found yourself taking care of. Speak kindly to that part and see if you can gain their trust. See if there are others parts that criticize and ask them why are they doing that?

      • @LeviiOPEnglish
        1•1 year ago

        Sorry for the late reply, I dont go on Lemmy often enough.

        I try to speak kindly to myself as frequently as possible, and rarely find criticism from within when it comes to these kinds of issues. I don’t think the issue is necessarily how I talk to myself. I dont really know what to do

        • @VubDappleEnglish
          1•1 year ago

          Does being outside in some fashion remind you of previous traumatic events or do you think these issues might be more separate?

          • @LeviiOPEnglish
            1•1 year ago

            It does. Especially during Summer/Autumn.

            My big fear isn’t about human interaction so much, though that is still present, it is more about the possibility of being attacked or robbed.

            To add to that, I was pretty carefree with leaving the house and whatnot prior to these two experiences. I was even confident/raring to leave the house.

            • @VubDappleEnglish
              1•1 year ago

              Well, it sounds like you were assaulted while outside your home and posttraumatic hypervigilance and panic you always fearing a repeat. There are a few ways to work on this sort of thing. If you can access therapy look for a provider who can offer EMDR which is a therapy that has the potential to take some of the terror out of the memories.

              • @LeviiOPEnglish
                1•1 year ago

                Thank you, I’ll look into EMDR. I may have to go back to therapy at some point then!

                • @VubDappleEnglish
                  2•1 year ago

                  Sure! What you’re needing to happen is known as memory reconsolidation in the neuroscience literature. Essentially the idea is that memories are malleable and that under certain circumstances you can have the experience of remembering the terrifying event so that the memory itself is altered such that the awfulness of it is diminished. EMDR is one route to this effect. Good luck!