The allegations against L.B., made by an anonymous caller at 4:45 a.m. that day, were false. These included that she was a stripper (she worked at a home for people with disabilities); that she used drugs (none were found, and a drug test was negative for all substances); and that an abusive man lived with her and that she owned “machine guns” (after an exhaustive search and interrogation, both claims were deemed baseless).
In fact, L.B. has never been found to have committed any type of child maltreatment, ACS and court records show.
Yet the anonymous caller, whom L.B. believes to be a former acquaintance with a grudge, has continued to dial in to New York’s state child welfare hotline. Each time, this person or possibly people make outlandish, often already-disproven claims about her, seeming to know that doing so will automatically trigger a government intrusion into her domestic life.
And ACS obliges: Over the past three years, the agency either has inspected her home or examined and questioned her son at school more than two dozen times. Caseworkers have sought a warrant for only three of these searches, most recently in August. All of those requests have been rejected by judges, according to court records.
I’m like that too and until recently I never knew why. Most of the time I was able to control it, but now that I’m in my 60’s I just don’t have the strength or desire to anymore.
If you haven’t already you may want to check out ADHD in girls, as that’s what I was diagnosed with 2 years ago.
She’s already been diagnosed with it, so that is also a problem. That’s why I would have quit my job to monitor her online school even if the school didn’t require it. To keep her focused. She’s on some (non-scheduled) medication for it and it helps, but not so much that she doesn’t need help in school.
Incidentally, I just read this very interesting article about women with ADHD that someone posted on another Lemmy community- https://www.theguardian.com/society/2020/nov/02/the-lost-girls-chaotic-and-curious-women-with-adhd-all-have-missed-red-flags-that-haunt-us
My daughter is a perfectionist when it comes to things she loves. She keeps throwing out her drawings because she thinks they’re never good enough and she’s a really good artist. That article sort of gives perspective on that. I’m going to read it to my daughter later and see if it makes her less likely to throw them out. She’s thrown out whole sketchbooks that I’ve had to rescue from the trash.
You got this in hand then. She sounds like she’s smart as a whip, and with parents who are devoted to her. She will do well I think.
Thanks. I sure hope so. It’s been a rough ride.